Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving ustied up in knots? In this illuminating book, Deborah Tannen, thelinguist and and bestselling author of You Just Don'tUnderstand and many other books, reveals why talking to familymembers is so often painful and problematic even when we're alladults. Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we findsigns of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family loveso often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I OnlySay This Because I Love You , Tannen shows how important it is,in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages,from heart meanings, or metamessages — unstated but powerfulmeanings that come from the history of our relationships and theway things are said. Presenting real conversations from people'slives, Tannen reveals what is actually going on in family talk,including how family conversations must balance the longing forconnection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be closewithout giving up

The number of anxious, depressed, hyperactive and withdrawnchildren is staggering—and still growing! Millions have experiencedbullying, violence (real or in the media), abuse or sexualmolestation. Many other kids have been traumatized from more“ordinary” ordeals such as terrifying medical procedures,accidents, loss and divorce. Trauma-Proofing Your Kids sends alifeline to parents who wonder how they can help their worried andtroubled children now. It offers simple but powerful tools to keepchildren safe from danger and to help them “bounce back” afterfeeling scared and overwhelmed. No longer will kids have to bepassive prey to predators or the innocent victims of life’scircumstances. In addition to arming parents with priceless protectivestrategies, best-selling authors Dr. Peter A. Levine and MaggieKline offer an antidote to trauma and a recipe for creatingresilient kids no matter what misfortune has besieged them.Trauma-Proofing Your Kids is a treasure trove of simple-to-follow“st

In perhaps the most important parenting book of the decade,Dr. Harvey Karp reveals an extraordinary treasure sought by parentsfor centuries—an automatic “off-switch” for their baby’scrying.

An exceptional father-son story about the reality that testsus, the myths that sustain us, and the love that saves us. Paul Coates was an enigmatic god to his sons: a Vietnam vet whorolled with the Black Panthers, an old-school disciplinarian andnew-age believer in free love, an autodidact who launched apublishing company in his basement dedicated to telling the truehistory of African civilization. Most of all, he was a wilytactician whose mission was to carry his sons across the shoals ofinner-city adolescence—and through the collapsing civilization ofBaltimore in the Age of Crack—and into the safe arms of HowardUniversity, where he worked so his children could attend forfree. Among his brood of seven, his main challenges were Ta-Nehisi,spacey and sensitive and almost comically miscalibrated for hisenvironment, and Big Bill, charismatic and all-too-ready for thechallenges of the streets. The Beautiful Struggle follows theirdivergent paths through this turbulent period, and their father

Today’s busier, faster, supersized society is waging anundeclared war . . . on childhood. As the pace of life acceleratesto hyperspeed–with too much stuff, too many choices, and too littletime–children feel the pressure. They can become anxious, havetrouble with friends and school, or even be diagnosed withbehavioral problems. Now, in defense of the extraordinary power ofless, internationally renowned family consultant Kim John Paynehelps parents reclaim for their children the space and freedom thatall kids need, allowing their children’s attention to focus andtheir individuality to flourish. Based on Payne’s twenty year’s experience successfully counselingbusy families, Simplicity Parenting teaches parents how to worryand hover less–and how to enjoy more. For those who want to slowtheir children’s lives down but don’t know where to start, Payneoffers both inspiration and a blueprint for change. · Streamline your home environment. The average child has morethan 150 toys.

Raising decent, caring, and responsible children is the mostcomplex and challenging job in every parent’s life—and anincreasingly difficult one in today’s society. Here is the mostauthoritative book available on this crucial subject, a valuableand sensitive guide for parents who want their children to grow upwith lifelong positive values. Based on fascinating research, this groundbreaking work bypsychologist and educator Dr. Thomas Lickona describes thepredictable stages of moral development from birth to adulthood.And it offers you down-to-earth advice and guidance for eachstage: ? Seven caring ways to discipline “terrible twos” ? Why your preschooler “lies” and how to handle it ? What to do about a four-year-old’s back talk ? How to handle your seven-year-old’s endless negotiations aboutwhat’s “fair” ? Why teens have trouble with peer pressure—and how to helpthem ? How to talk to your child about drugs, drinking, and se

"CONGRATULATIONS--YOU'RE EXPECTING TWINS!" Remember when you first heard the news? After regaining the powerof speech, you allowed the joy and anxious anticipation to settlein. Though family and friends simply suggest buying two ofeverything, parents of twins (triplets, quadruplets, right on up)need more than multiple strollers. For along with equipment, theyneed more facts, more advice, more patience, more support. Now helpis here with The Art of Parenting Twins. Whether you have just discovered you're expecting two (or more)babies, are about to give birth, are struggling through thoseincredible first weeks, or are engaged in the whirlwind ofchild-rearing, here are the answers and resources you've beenlooking for. Written by the president and founder of Twin Services,Inc., this complete up-to-date guide will give you the skills youneed. The Art of Parenting Twins covers such vital issues as - Bonding with more than one baby - Breast-feeding techniques

Turn Your Child into a Great Reader! Are you concerned about your child's reading ability? Does yourchild hate to read? If so, you are not alone. In fact, 38 percentof American fourth graders are unable to read at a basic level. Butnow you can turn your nonreader child into a reading star—in just afew short weeks. Based on research done at Yale, this simple yet revolutionary guidemerges the three essential elements of reading instruction:auditory training, phonics, and whole language. Inside, teachersand parents will find easy-to-read cartoons, games, and fun phonicsheets that will help almost any child read at or above gradelevel. Reading expert Peggy Wilber will show you how to help yourchild develop better fluency, language skills, and comprehension.You'll learn how to: Determine your child's specific reading needs Help your childdevelop comprehension strategies Enhance your child's phonic skillsChoose great reading selections at the right level for your childAnd much more! "This is an effec

In the tradition of recent hits like The Bitch in theHouse and Perfect Madness comes a hilarious andcontroversial book that every woman will have an opinion about,written by America’s most outrageous writer. In our mothers’ day there were good mothers, neglectful mothers,and occasionally great mothers. Today we have only Bad Mothers. If you work, you’re neglectful; if you stay home, you’resmothering. If you discipline, you’re buying them a spot on theshrink’s couch; if you let them run wild, they will be into drugsby seventh grade. If you buy organic, you’re spending their collegefund; if you don’t, you’re risking all sorts of allergies andillnesses. Is it any wonder so many women refer to themselves at one time oranother as “a bad mother”? Ayelet Waldman says it’s time for womento get over it and get on with it, in a book that is sure to sparkthe same level of controversy as her now legendary “Modern Love”piece, in which she confessed to loving her husband more than

From "Goo" to Gab — Guiding Your Child to EffectiveCommunication The first five years of a child's life are the most critical forspeech and language development, and, as a parent, you are yourchild's primary language role model. So what are the best ways tohelp your child develop the all-important skill of communication?Fun, easy, and engaging, this book shows you how! Inside, you'lldiscover all of the essential steps and checkpoints from birththrough age five, tips to help your child progress on schedule, andeasy methods to: · Evaluate and monitor your child's language development · Understand and deal with environmental impacts such astelevision and cultural styles · Recognize the signs of language development problems · And much, much more!

Start Setting Effective Limits — Now! Do your children misbehave? Do they repeatedly ignore or refuseyour requests for proper behavior? Are you constantly fluctuatingbetween permissive and authoritarian parenting, with little or nosuccess? Are you convinced there has to be a better way? There is.Setting Limits will help you establish the positive, respectful,and instructional groundwork your children need for proper ethicaland behavioral development In this revised and expanded edition of his popular book, RobertMacKenzie, Ed.D., demonstrates proven techniques and proceduresthat not only correct misbehavior but instill the cooperation andconduct you want and expect from your children. This book showsparents how to: ?Enforce clear, firm, and effective boundaries ?Put an end to conflicts and power struggles ?Establish rules that encourage cooperation ?Teach children important problem-solving skills ?Apply logical consequences of misbehavior Children need