Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving ustied up in knots? In this illuminating book, Deborah Tannen, thelinguist and and bestselling author of You Just Don'tUnderstand and many other books, reveals why talking to familymembers is so often painful and problematic even when we're alladults. Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we findsigns of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family loveso often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I OnlySay This Because I Love You , Tannen shows how important it is,in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages,from heart meanings, or metamessages — unstated but powerfulmeanings that come from the history of our relationships and theway things are said. Presenting real conversations from people'slives, Tannen reveals what is actually going on in family talk,including how family conversations must balance the longing forconnection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be closewithout giving up

"CONGRATULATIONS--YOU'RE EXPECTING TWINS!" Remember when you first heard the news? After regaining the powerof speech, you allowed the joy and anxious anticipation to settlein. Though family and friends simply suggest buying two ofeverything, parents of twins (triplets, quadruplets, right on up)need more than multiple strollers. For along with equipment, theyneed more facts, more advice, more patience, more support. Now helpis here with The Art of Parenting Twins. Whether you have just discovered you're expecting two (or more)babies, are about to give birth, are struggling through thoseincredible first weeks, or are engaged in the whirlwind ofchild-rearing, here are the answers and resources you've beenlooking for. Written by the president and founder of Twin Services,Inc., this complete up-to-date guide will give you the skills youneed. The Art of Parenting Twins covers such vital issues as - Bonding with more than one baby - Breast-feeding techniques

Fifteen thousand children under the age of fifteen passedthrough the Terezin Concentration Camp. Fewer than 100 survived. Inthese poems and pictures drawn by the young inmates, we see thedaily misery of these uprooted children, as well as their hopes andfears, their courage and optimism. 60 color illustrations.

畅销美国400多万册，被翻译成16种语言畅销全球； 让数百万孩子、父母和老师受益终身的经典之作； 自1981年本书第一版出版以来，《正面管教》已经成为管教孩子的 黄金准则 简 尼尔森 教育学博士、杰出的心理学家 在本书中告诉21世纪的父母和老师们： 惩罚和娇纵为什么对孩子都不好，并且不管用？ 怎样用既不惩罚又不娇纵的正面管教方法培养孩子受益终生的良好品质？ 如何用正面管教方法自动消除孩子的不良行为？ 如何赢得孩子与父母和老师的合作？ 如何消解大人与孩子之间的权力之争？ 超级父母 对孩子会有什么危害？ 各种性格的父母对孩子会有什么正反两方面的影响？父母如何发挥自己性格中的优点，避免缺点给孩子造成的不良影响？ 老师们如何避免对孩子造成管教问题？ 从3岁到青春期的十几岁的孩子以及孩子的父母和老师，都将

In Raising Cain, Dan Kindlon, Ph.D., and Michael Thompson,Ph.D., two of the country's leading child psychologists, share whatthey have learned in more than thirty-five years of combinedexperience working with boys and their families. They reveal anation of boys who are hurting--sad, afraid, angry, and silent.Kindlon and Thompson set out to answer this basic, crucialquestion: What do boys need that they're not getting? Theyilluminate the forces that threaten our boys, teaching them tobelieve that "cool" equals macho strength and stoicism. Cuttingthrough outdated theories of "mother blame," "boy biology," and"testosterone," the authors shed light on the destructive emotionaltraining our boys receive--the emotional miseducation ofboys. Kindlon and Thompson make a compelling case that emotionalliteracy is the most valuable gift we can offer our sons, urgingparents to recognize the price boys pay when we hold them to animpossible standard of manhood. They identify the social andemotional challenges th

An exceptional father-son story about the reality that testsus, the myths that sustain us, and the love that saves us. Paul Coates was an enigmatic god to his sons: a Vietnam vet whorolled with the Black Panthers, an old-school disciplinarian andnew-age believer in free love, an autodidact who launched apublishing company in his basement dedicated to telling the truehistory of African civilization. Most of all, he was a wilytactician whose mission was to carry his sons across the shoals ofinner-city adolescence—and through the collapsing civilization ofBaltimore in the Age of Crack—and into the safe arms of HowardUniversity, where he worked so his children could attend forfree. Among his brood of seven, his main challenges were Ta-Nehisi,spacey and sensitive and almost comically miscalibrated for hisenvironment, and Big Bill, charismatic and all-too-ready for thechallenges of the streets. The Beautiful Struggle follows theirdivergent paths through this turbulent period, and their father

When Rosalind Wiseman first published Queen Bees Wannabes, she fundamentally changed the way adults look at girls’friendships and conflicts–from how they choose their best friends,how they express their anger, their boundaries with boys, and theirrelationships with parents. Wiseman showed how girls of everybackground are profoundly influenced by their interactions with oneanother. Now, Wiseman has revised and updated her groundbreaking book fora new generation of girls and explores: ?How girls’ experiences before adolescence impact their teenyears, future relationships, and overall success ?The different roles girls play in and outside of cliques asQueen Bees, Targets, and Bystanders, and how this defines how theyand others are treated ?Girls’ power plays–from fake apologies to fights over IM andtext messages ?Where boys fit into the equation of girl conflicts and how youcan help your daughter better hold her own with the oppositesex ?Checking your baggage

All parents share the same goal—to give their kids the best ofeverything. But despite our good intentions, the life-enhancingabundance we heap on our children is often more than they need orcan handle, and we cross the line into overindulgence. In How MuchIs Enough?, parenting experts Jean Illsley Clarke, Connie Dawson,and David Bredehoft explain for the first time how giving childrentoo much, over-nurturing them, and providing them with softstructure will prevent them from learning many of the importantlife skills they need to become happy, healthy adults. Filled withsmart advice, real-life stories, and effective strategies, How MuchIs Enough? tells you everything you need to know to avoid—orrepair—the damage overindulgence causes, including: ? How to figure out if you’re being overindulgent and ways toact differently ? How to teach your child what "enough" means ? Tips on establishing firm rules and structure ? How to instill responsibility and independence in yourkids ? What to do w

Start Setting Effective Limits — Now! Do your children misbehave? Do they repeatedly ignore or refuseyour requests for proper behavior? Are you constantly fluctuatingbetween permissive and authoritarian parenting, with little or nosuccess? Are you convinced there has to be a better way? There is.Setting Limits will help you establish the positive, respectful,and instructional groundwork your children need for proper ethicaland behavioral development In this revised and expanded edition of his popular book, RobertMacKenzie, Ed.D., demonstrates proven techniques and proceduresthat not only correct misbehavior but instill the cooperation andconduct you want and expect from your children. This book showsparents how to: ?Enforce clear, firm, and effective boundaries ?Put an end to conflicts and power struggles ?Establish rules that encourage cooperation ?Teach children important problem-solving skills ?Apply logical consequences of misbehavior Children need

Toddlers can drive you bonkers…so adorable and fun oneminute…so stubborn and demanding the next! Yet, as unbelievable asit sounds, there is a way to turn the daily stream of “nos” and“don’ts” into “yeses” and hugs…if you know how to speak yourtoddler’s language. In one of the most useful advances in parentingtechniques of the past twenty-five years, Dr. Karp reveals thattoddlers, with their immature brains and stormy outbursts, shouldbe thought of not as pint-size people but aspintsize…cavemen. Having noticed that the usual techniques often failed to calmcrying toddlers, Dr. Karp discovered that the key to effectivecommunication was to speak to them in their own primitive language.When he did, suddenly he was able to soothe their outbursts almostevery time! This amazing success led him to the realization thatchildren between the ages of one and four go through four stages of“evolutionary” growth, each linked to the development of the brain,and each echoing a step in pr

Turn Your Child into a Great Reader! Are you concerned about your child's reading ability? Does yourchild hate to read? If so, you are not alone. In fact, 38 percentof American fourth graders are unable to read at a basic level. Butnow you can turn your nonreader child into a reading star—in just afew short weeks. Based on research done at Yale, this simple yet revolutionary guidemerges the three essential elements of reading instruction:auditory training, phonics, and whole language. Inside, teachersand parents will find easy-to-read cartoons, games, and fun phonicsheets that will help almost any child read at or above gradelevel. Reading expert Peggy Wilber will show you how to help yourchild develop better fluency, language skills, and comprehension.You'll learn how to: Determine your child's specific reading needs Help your childdevelop comprehension strategies Enhance your child's phonic skillsChoose great reading selections at the right level for your childAnd much more! "This is an effec

In this fully revised and expanded second edition, SettingLimits author Robert MacKenzie is back with even more time-provenmethods for dealing with misbehavior and creating positive,respectful, and rewarding relationships with children prone toacting out and disobedience. Disruptive misbehavior, constant power struggles, manipulativeor aggressive behavior--the challenges facing parents and teachersof strong-willed children can seem overwhelming at times. That'swhy thousands of parents and educators have turned to the solutionsin Setting Limits With Your Strong-Willed Child. This revised andexpanded second edition offers the most up-to-date alternatives topunishment and permissiveness--moving beyond traditional methodsthat wear you down and get you nowhere, and zeroing in on whatreally works so parents can use their energy in more efficient andproductive ways. With fully updated guidelines on parenting toolslike "logical consequences," and examples drawn directly from themodern world that childre

The Goodnight Book for Moms and Little Ones is filled withstories to read, songs to sing, poetry to inspire, activities todelight, recipes to soothe, and prayers to calm. Perfect snugglingmaterial for moms and little ones, this magical book is sure toguarantee a love of bedtime and sweet, sweet dreams. The GoodnightBook for Moms and Little Ones includes: ? Literary Excerpts: Ten excerpts relating to sleep, stars, anddreams from beloved children’s classics. In Charlotte’s Web,Charlotte sings Wilbur to sleep; in Mary Poppins, she glues starsto the sky; and in James and the Giant Peach, James falls asleep inthe web hammock under the soft light of a glowworm. ? Tales Legends: Fourteen stories from Sleeping Beauty andRip Van Winkle to creation tales of the moon and stars fromdifferent cultures. ? Songs: Ten songs and lullabies, including "Dream a Little Dreamof Me," "Goodnight" by Lennon and McCartney, and "Hush, LittleBaby." ? Poetry: Fourteen poems, including "The Land of Nod